Black Women and THUGS! – PART TWO
by admin on Tuesday, June 30th, 2009 | 25 Comments
In part two of this three part series, I continue to talk about the men who complain about black women dating thugs and bad boys and how this is detrimental to success with women and dating.
I tackle this subject and discuss aspects of the problem THAT NO ONE ELSE ON YOU TUBE HAS DISCUSSED.
Don’t miss part three of this exciting discussion!
Duration : 0:10:37
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they won’t turn …
they won’t turn down will smith, denzel, or blair underwood because they got money
they way i see it, …
they way i see it, black women since women wanna be with thugs and dope dealers, then they only wanna drama in there lives and they are stupid and they deserve what they get, as far as it goes for me, i’m going to just go outside my race, because i’m too good of a black man to be turned down by black women just because i’m not a thug.
I considered myself …
I considered myself average looking, and I would turned down a date if I was in a situation where will smith asked me out for a date.
Atemaatra…wow, I …
Atemaatra…wow, I love that title: “How to Attract Women for Dummies”. They have all of these other “for Dummies” books. Maybe I can use that title. LOL!
This video is 101 …
This video is 101 How to Attract Women for Dummies. You should write books, and all youtube bashers should watch your videos as mandatory viewing. You hit the nail on the head when you said women are attracted to confidence. A man with game can attract any woman no matter what he looks like, some of the ugliest men are the sexiest men cuz they got game, funny men are sexy too.
I’m a Denzel kind …
I’m a Denzel kind of guy. I’m been told so by women of ALL colors. The problem is I don’t look FULLY black (light skin, good hur [wtf?]) so many black women find that intimidating. They’re not sure or confident I’d want them or they’re afraid they’ll have to compete with other women. The funny thing is when ALL black women think that way NO ONE wants to date you. Plus there’s an issue of ked up black men being the norm, so good black men become an oddity.
The problem with …
The problem with being swaggerous as a non-thuggish BM is that a BW will instantly pick up on your change and think you’re trying to hard, so it’s best not to try this with BW you’ve became acquainted with over the years at your job, class, or etc.Try it with BW that you newly meet at some new places you’ve never been to before, and you may just have a chance at winning their interests in you.
Interesting …
Interesting approach.That most definetely helps since your own non-thuggish personality makes you stand out and she can clearly see how different you are from the other BM that are thugs.However, it’s no good if you don’t have swagger since these BW won’t give a BM any play unless he does.
DarcSeth237 made an …
DarcSeth237 made an excellent point about this same issue. The example he used was the song by Beyonce called “Soldier”. Beyonce was basically saying she wanted a “soldier” or, in other words, a thug for a mate. The question is, why the would someone who makes their money legally and seemingly was raised in a decent household require that her man be a “soldier”? She should have known better than to put this thought in other young black women’s mind. That’s a huge problem to me.
Sadly to say, …
Sadly to say, sometimes it seems as if the only word some of these black women can comprehend is the word, “money”. I mean this literally. A lot of black women really are nothing but gold-diggers who love thugs, but then they feel mistreated when we as good black men decide to date outside our race. The thing that really bothers me though, is how the “thug life” is embraced in the mainstream media. That’s one of the main reasons it’s been so attractive to young black women.
You might still be …
You might still be able to luck up and pull her anyway, but the best way to approach a black woman is by being yourself. Most black women tend to be able to sense if a guy is being himself or not. The problem with black women who love thugs is that they’re too materialistic. They go from drug dealer to drug dealer looking for a way to come up and they’re never truly happy in that lifestyle. Then, every other guy that comes along is expected to have “swagger” or she won’t talk to him.
I know I eluded to …
I know I eluded to this point before in some of my earlier comments, but one thing I wanted to stress is that just because a black women is appealing to you physically, doesn’t mean she’s a good mate for you. Another thing I wanted to mention before I forget is that, if you’re a guy who doesn’t hang out in the streets like most thugs do and you know that the black women likes thugs that hang certain places or do certain things, you might wanna reconsider talking to that woman.
I think a lot of …
I think a lot of good black men see these black women with thugs and envision themselves with that woman. They see beautiful black women who could be their potential wife with thugs and it hurts them because they see so much potential in that black woman going to waste. I’m not gone lie. I’m guilty of feeling that way before, too. However, the final decision lies with the women. If a black women doesn’t see her own mistakes, she probably wasn’t the woman you thought she was anyway.
Actually, I believe …
Actually, I believe good black men should change their entire perspective on these black women. I think you have to look at the bigger picture. The point I’m trying to make is that if a black woman settles for the thug instead of the decent guy, then maybe she wasn’t the type of woman you thought she was to begin with. This applies to all black women who love thugs, regardless of how fine she is. I think what happens is that many black men get blinded by the fact that the black woman is so fine.
He is in the …
He is in the entertainment industry, is documented as a womanizer and bases much of his music on hypersexual imagery. It is STILL the badboy, thug IMAGE that underlies it all. Those guys in Tyler Perry movies that always get the girl (GOD i hate those movies) are about as close to what a real black man should be as any entertainment industry has gotten it.
Junebug, awesome …
Junebug, awesome stuff. There’s BW that are real no matter how educated, spiritual they are they don’t want thugs. What about Ginuwine as a man in the middle? The ladies think he has an edge, swagger and dress thuggish but in a stylish clean way but knows how to be caring with the ladies.
I dont complain …
I dont complain about black women dating thugs I just look for OTHER women. black women never gonna change.
i knew a girl in …
i knew a girl in college who was dating a thug. she was going for nursing. i talked to her about her boyfriend , she said he was a drug dealer etc….. well to make a long story short , mid semester she stopped showing up to class. i talked to her friend after class , come to find out she is now in jail because her BF was busted with drugs and she was in the car , BUT he had a large amount of drugs. so she will be in jail for awhile. she threw her life away for a thug.
Also, I will not …
Also, I will not talk to black women who turned me down time and time again earlier in life while they were laying up with the “thugs” or anybody else for that matter. I think a lot of black women think they can reform these thugs into the perfect ideal mate. It’s almost as if the female is sympthetic to the thug’s own stupidity. To this day, I still have a lot of anger in me because I see some of the same females that I wanted with a nigga who don’t give a about her with like 5 kids.
The sad part is …
The sad part is that this very same issue leads to domestic violence and single-parent families. That is the broader problem. Even more, it’s becoming increasingly harder to determine what a black women is looking for in a man. Alot of the “so-called” righteous black women “thugs” also. I know one thing, I refuse to take on a gang of kids that aren’t mine. I will not settle for leftovers unless it was maybe one mistake.
Let me get back to …
Let me get back to the point that I was making about these black women being so stupid. Some of these black women are so stupid that they will get with a “thug” just based on his car and clothes. The real sad part is that none of those things belong to her. She is just with him because he’s a popular choice to the public. You know, I hear people on the internet, jokingly, discuss this topic all the time. What a lot of people fail to realize is that this is actually a VERY serious problem.
In other words, …
In other words, black women are looking for someone to lead them, not somebody to follow their lead. Here’s just one of the many examples. Let’s just say you’re with a black woman and her car breaks down. She asks you what’s wrong with the car and you don’t know. Then, let’s just say the “thug” around the corner knows how to fix the car and comes and fixes it. The black woman may leave you and get with the thug just based on that because to her you showed a sign of weakness.
If she’s not …
If she’s not willing to accept you for you, then she’s not open-minded enough to talk to anyway. A quality black woman would be willing to compromise her physical attraction for a thug if a decent guy came along. Also, the reason that thugs get a lot of the black women is due to their “perceived” experience. This is because most thugs live so fast and have seen so much. Most black women want black men that will tell them what, when, where, how, etc.
Once you realize …
Once you realize just how stupid and shallow some of these black women are, you will be happy you didn’t get to holla at some of them. You have to understand that many younger generation black females have an image in their minds of the kind of guy they want. Unfortunately, that image is usually that of a thug. So, if any man comes along and he’s not what she envisioned, then she might not give him a shot at all. If that’s one of her requirements and you’re not the thug type, then look elsewhere
You see, part of …
You see, part of getting black women is knowing what black women to approach and what black women not to approach. All black women will not be the right fit for you simply because she’s fine. Watch how she dresses, how she reacts to you, the company she keeps, where she goes, etc. As painful as it may be, all fine black woman are not the right fit for you. Eventually, you will find out there’s no cure for the stupidity in some of these black women.